Safewords

The use of safe words is popular during BDSM play. It would be fair to say that safe words have an almost religious importance to some couples engaging in BDSM play. But are they really necessary?

Sex or No Sex: An Interview With a Professional Submissive

I have noticed a high frequency of discussions on various blogs and websites concerning sex and BDSM play. The question is whether there should be sex during BSDM play or not. This seems like a question of preference but it drills to the core of BDSM. Why do people get involved in BDSM?

Being Traded/Loaned: A Slave’s Perspective on Serving a New Master

In a book by Elissa Gough on infidelity she writes, “Infidelity is as old as history – and just as complicated. The mere fact that one of the Ten Commandments exhorts us against adultery is a sure sign that even in Biblical times people strayed. Today, high-profile examples of adultery everywhere, from the front pages of newspapers to the back rooms of corporate offices.

Letter from Warlock: How to Get the Most Out of Your Play Sessions

A common problem in D/s relationships is that of disappearing play sessions. The common thing reported is that everything will be great for the first year or two -- love-making three to five times a week, frequent play sessions, etc. -- then gradually the play would stop and the love making would dwindle to once or twice a week. Sometimes the Dom stops enforcing his rules and the relationship becomes essentially vanilla.

Slave or Submissive - An Exploration

A woman asked a BDSM community on a blog, “How can you be owned when at the end of the day the power to submit is yours?”